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Student Blogs: Maintaining a relationship at university

When I first considered going to university, people began with the typical questions and statements: “Do you really think you and your boyfriend will last?”, “University is a lot of pressure on a relationship!”, or “There will be so much temptation when you start university!”

Things like this will leave anyone with fear about what university will do to their relationship! As for me, at the time I was in a seven-month relationship with a guy I loved a lot. We had spent all summer happy as Larry. But with university around the corner, I think it is safe to say that we were both feeling a little anxious. However, there is hope! I am still in this relationship, we are now two years strong and growing up together through this crazy student life.

But that is not to say that it has been easy, there have been many trials along the way. Here are some things to consider during the transition:

Look at your relationship

When we are in our little love bubbles, it is not always clear if we are in a relationship that serves us well. We look past how our partner makes us feel because we just love them so much. Looking at how you and your partner work together will help determine if you feel you are well suited. Here are some questions to help you decide:

  • Do they support you?

  • Do they respect you?

  • Do you trust each other?

  • Can you talk openly to your partner?

If you can answer "yes" to these questions, then things will be a lot easier. But do not get discouraged if this is not the case. Any relationship can be worked on to meet these goals. However, it will mean that you may have to take extra care with the next few steps, which can help to make your relationship even stronger.

Accept that things will change

Relationships change as you get older, but university will usually be the first time that this change has happened in our lives. To think that your relationship will be as easy as before could mean that fantasy will be broken when you arrive at university. Change is scary, but not always a bad thing. Your relationship will mature through this process. By accepting that it will change when you go to university, but that this is okay, means it can blossom into a mature and loving relationship.